It doesn’t seem possible to live without emotional pain does it? Well what if emotions were actually just love in disguise?
Imagine that there’s really only one emotion – the emotion of LOVE. Anything else you feel is resistance to love or the absence or even withholding of love.
Think of love as an energy that flows through you and if that flow is blocked, either from coming IN to you, moving THROUGH you or from LEAVING you, you will feel it as emotion. The word emotion breaks down into E (energy) motion (movement) so it is literally the movement of energy.
When you feel a negative emotion what you actually feel as pain is the resistance to love. What you feel inside is the result of an inner resistance to love. The label we give to a painful emotion refers to the way in which love is being removed from us or resisted.
For example, when you feel sad, that feeling comes from the loss of something or someone you love.
- Anger is the feeling that you were denied love.
- Sadness is the emotion you feel when you have lost someone you love.
- Fear is the feeling that you might lose love.
- Hurt is the feeling that another withheld love, or rejected your love.
- Guilt is the feeling that you didn’t love enough or didn’t give or show enough love.
When love flows freely the feeling is GOOD. When we give love and it is accepted and when we feel that we are loved and are able to accept it. When we don’t feel love being given and we want it, we feel it as pain.
How do you stop the pain?
Most people try to stop the pain by changing the OUTSIDE. They try to get others to change. Sometimes they even change the actual person. The problem with this is that if you still have an underlying need for love then you will likely repeat the same pattern with different people.
However if you change the INSIDE, i.e. you change your need to be shown or given love in a particular way then the tension is gone.
Of course, you can still choose to accept love, and enjoy being loved, without it being a need. Without the tension of that unmet need, and the accompanying painful emotions it makes it much easier for people to love you, show you love and you get even more love.
Think how much easier it is to feel love towards happy, cheerful people, and how much harder it is to show love to people who are resentful, needy or demanding, or gloomy.
Once it’s no longer a need, paradoxically, you’re more likely to get it. You show more love more willingly and you receive more love.